Guest Blog // New year, new you? by Alyssa Goldman

First off, let me start by saying Happy Fricken New Year my happy humans! I hope your new year is off to a great start. I was struggling on what to make my first blog post of the year focus on because to be honest I am not a resolution type gal. I really believe that as individuals
we should be focusing on becoming the best versions of ourselves constantly. I have found that majority of the time resolutions don’t stick. Think to yourself about the past and if you’ve set New Year’s Resolutions for yourself.

Now think about how long you really stuck to it and how much you enjoyed your life while you were trying to stick to it. How quickly did you break? Most resolutions don’t even last two weeks into the new year. I’m guilty of it and we are all probably guilty of this in some way or another. That is 150% okay.

Now many of you are probably wondering why I just said that was okay. Well, for many reasons and most due to personal experiences.

First, I have found that the pressure to come up with a resolution and it be “good enough” for yourself is stressful enough. While I am all about bettering yourself to become the best version of yourself possible, being knit picky with yourself can do more harm than good.

Bettering yourself isn’t always the easiest thing to do because it requires making changes. For many people, change is hard. And the fact that change is hard is 100% normal because it causes you to step outside your comfort zone.

Change also takes time and demands having patience with yourself. I have found that when people don’t see results shortly into the new year, they give up and go back to old habits.

If we focus on bettering ourselves daily, we won’t feel as pressured and become more stressed in a shorter period of time. Gradual and small changes daily or weekly will allow you to become more relaxed with new experiences and just be happy. In my own experience, setting resolutions one time of the year made me feel more sad than excited. Sure, I am excited for a feeling of a fresh beginning, but it just more of a reminder for me to get my shiiiit together girl.

It also made me feel like I was focusing on the negatives. I would think about everything I had done wrong in the year prior and how I had to better that, as opposed to all I have achieved in the past year and how I could continue to be successful. Focusing on bettering myself daily has
allowed me to change my mindset. I set goals for myself constantly and I am constantly working towards those goals. This is one change that has really helped me achieve true happiness and love myself more. We have to love ourselves in order to be happy with ourselves. If we are not happy with ourselves it will show on the outside and in everything you do.

While I have a lot of exciting plans coming because of how hard I have been working in the year prior, I do want to leave that for another time and end with a piece of advice instead.

With the New Year almost in full swing, focus on being happy. Do not be ashamed to do things for yourself. What I mean by that is; if you are trying to better yourself and be happy, do what makes you happy even if others close to you do not fully agree with you. Everyone is not going
to agree with what you do. Humans have their own opinions and that will never change. I’m sorry to break it to you, but like an ass everyone has one. #sorrynotsorry

If you can remember one thing from this blog let it be; The opinions of others do not need to come home with you unless you allow them to.​ I am constantly telling my students this (I am a teacher of the blind and visually impaired during the day) because they go through a lot of their lives with the public judging them. If you are doing things for yourself that are helping you become a better version of yourself then who cares what anyone else thinks.

At the end of the day, it is your life and your happiness. Why would you let someone else control that/your life?
So focus on the positives and have patience with yourselves. Not all days will be good days, but we have to have bad days in order to have good. This journey is a roller coaster, but it is a beautiful roller coaster. Just remember that you are more than enough and don’t ever give up on yourself.

Cheers to 2018.

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